After a breakup, many guys get emotional and find themselves asking one of the following questions: “What now?” or “What can I do to get my ex girlfriend back?”. They usually start thinking about everything that could have been done differently and begin to make plans about apologoy letters that, in their opinion, could help them get their relationship back.

This is usually a dead end for one reason: you can never really tell what the actual reasons behind the breakup were. That’s because, sometimes, women become so emotional and they don’t even know what led to the breakup in the first place. There are so many psychological triggers involved that, most of the time, it’s very hard to tell what makes them feel the way they do, so, in many circumstances, it’s only harmful to focus your energy on trying to figure out what went wrong.

To answer that first question, the first thing you can do is to forget about the relationship for a little while and focus your energy on something else. Go out, make friends and have fun.

Give yourself a couple of weeks to make changes in your life. Taking some time away from your ex girlfriend will work wonders.

After a few weeks, you may have a much better idea of how you’re going to deal with your past relationship.

By this time you will be able to answer questions like “Do I still love her?”, “Is it better to move on?” or “Do I still want her back?”. And act accordingly. If you decide you still want her back, it’s time to find out how she’s feeling about you.

Now you will have a chance to take action when it comes to getting your ex girlfriend back. You need a plan. Begging her to get back with with you is not a good idea since it’s not a good time to be emotional.

What you want to do instead is to play things cool… If you have spent enough time apart from her, she is probably missing you as much as you are missing her. Show her you’re doing fine without her and try playing hard to get for a while, but, without over doing it. This way, you will inspire her to rethink things.

If getting back together with your ex is ment to be, now is the right time to act. Don’t over analyze things since, doing so might prevent you from taking action the right way. Again, you want to play things cool and everything should work fine.